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Happy Thanksgiving, Everyone!

 

Sometimes, too much family togetherness at the holidays can feel stressful.

Here are 3 tips to bring your best self to the Thanksgiving table.

First, set your intention to stay happy no matter what. Connect to your inner wellbeing that is not dependent on what other people say or do.

Second, shift into neutral and be curious. How did Uncle Bob come to that conclusion? Why is Mom stressing about the gravy? How can you respond to stressors with compassion and not contribute to the drama?

Third, you will probably digest your food better if you allow more love, light and joy to flow through you. How can you raise the vibration for everyone at the table through your joy?

Really, at the end of the day, all we can control is our own response.
Happy Thanksgiving!

Leah

To learn more about skills to manage your energy and vibration, email me and let’s set up a time to chat. leah.skurdal@gmail.com

Introducing Oak Savanna Training Academy

What untapped passion calls your heart to a Higher Purpose?

I have been resisting my calling for years – decades – because it sounds too weird, too scary and like a lot of work. But this calling keeps knocking at my heart. Listen!

The calling in my heart tells me to grow an oak savanna. Not a physical grove of trees (although I love oak trees) but a spiritual oak savanna.

In every acorn lives the promise of an oak savanna. Some acorns will get eaten by squirrels. Some acorns will sprout, grow into seedlings and be eaten by deer. Some seedlings will grow into oak trees that get cut down to make oak cabinets and door frames.

But some oak trees will produce more acorns, some of which will turn into food and fuel, some of which will grow into oak trees that produce more acorns – until an entire oak savanna covers the terrain providing food, shelter, and shade for plants, bugs, animals and humans.

All that promise in each acorn!

Are you an acorn ready to grow an oak savanna?

I’m looking for a few nuts like me.

Starting in January 2019, I am launching an “oak savanna training academy” – a sisterhood of change-makers and spiritual pioneers.

You might be one of them if life seems to get in the way of living your higher purpose.

You feel a calling to make a difference in the world  – and you would do it if you didn’t have so many obligations, so many demands on  your time, so many people asking you to do more.

Really! You will get to that calling when you have less stress and can better manage the things in front of you. When things slow down. When there are fewer distractions. When you feel less stressed out all the time.

Sorry to tell you. That is called LIFE. If not now, then when? The world is at the 11th hour right now and we need your gifts and talents!

I’m creating the Oak Savanna Training Academy for you to respond to the stress of life with your Higher Self!  So you can bring your best self to the table. And I’m creating a format that can fit into your busy day so you feel less stressed while you are on track having a blast living your life on purpose.

During the 12-week online program, you will receive tools to:

  • Connect to your Higher Self during times of stress so you feel better faster
  • Practice self-forgiveness so you can return to self love more quickly when you make a mistake
  • Listen to another person’s Higher Self so you understand their motivation, release your judgment and improve your relationships
  • Keep your heart open so you can respond to conflict with compassion and not add to the drama around you
  • Hear the stillness under your mind chatter so you feel more inner peace
  • Align with the Divine expressing through you and as you so you feel greater joy and passion in your life

Message me if you would like to learn more about the Oak Savanna Training Academy. I can’t wait to get started!
Leah

Clarify Your Intentions for 2019

What kind of life do you want to be creating for yourself, your loved ones and the world around you?

We live in a challenging world in challenging times.  You may notice people around you falling into despair.  Some days it might feel like enough of a challenge to keep your own head above water without trying to hold others up from sinking beneath the surface too. Maybe your office environment gets snarky when co-workers feel stressed. Maybe your family members act out when they feel angry, sad or unloved.

It takes focus and determination to stay on track creating a world where you want to live – a world where you feel loved and appreciated.  A world where the people around you are stable and joyful too.

So, how do you keep yourself stable enough to be a light in the dark for others – without extinguishing your own light in the process?

Practice the art of Spiritual Pilates to strengthen your inner spiritual core muscles so you can intentionally create the life you love and desire – a life where you show up as your best self and others contribute to your well-being rather than drag you down.  Consistently practicing the skills of Spiritual Pilates leads to new levels of self-mastery.

Self-mastery does not mean that you never make mistakes or need to re-calibrate your vibrations to get back on track toward achieving your goals and dreams. Self-mastery is about how quickly you get back to center once you have gotten off track.

You are invited to join the Spiritual Pilates online community to practice skills leading to self-mastery.

In Spiritual Pilates, you learn skills to manage your subtle energy vibrations so that you can:

  • Get yourself out of a slump more quickly and feel better faster;
  • Respond to the ups and downs of life without feeling flustered when things don’t go as planned;
  • Improve the quality of your relationships and have more rewarding interactions with people;
  • Feel energized enough to make dinner at the end of the day;
  • Calm your mind chatter and stop making things worse for yourself;
  • Experience more God in your daily life and feel blessed moment to moment;
  • Shine your inner light more brightly so people around you can find their own path more easily.

The next session of Spiritual Pilates: On the Road to Self-Mastery begins November 13, 2018.

  • The live online workshop meets four Tuesdays, 7–8:00pm CT, 8-9:00ET, 6-7:00MT, 5-6:00PT November 13, 20, 27, December 4
  • Recordings available
  • Live and recorded Q&A Weekly
  • Meditations, homework
  • Two live 10-minute mid-day energy resets weekly
  • Closed Facebook group

In Spiritual Pilates we focus on physical, emotional, mental and spiritual energy vibrations and how to:

Week 1 – raise and sustain your physical energy vibration so you feel energized and not depleted;

Week 2 – work with emotional vibrations that stop you from moving forward so you can stay on track toward achieving your goals and desires;

Week 3 – assess whether your thoughts are in integrity with your intentions or keeping you stuck in old patterns of behavior;

Week 4 – align body, emotions, mind and spirit for optimal well-being so you are living your life on purpose and you feel fulfilled.

Check with your inner guidance to see if Spiritual Pilates resonates with you.  Then, call or text me and let’s set up a time to chat about whether Spiritual Pilates is the next right step for you.  Leah 651-472-3995.

More Love? Yes, Please!

You manage stress relatively well.
BUT WAIT! Isn’t there more to life?
You want more joy! More fulfillment! More satisfaction!
Yes! You can have more!

 Access the deep inner reservoir within your Soul of INFINITE love, peace, joy, abundance, harmony, freedom and well-being.

But, how do you tap into that reservoir of peace within
when the external environment is not peaceful?

You build your inner spiritual core muscles and reset your default at a higher vibration through practicing

Spiritual Pilates:
On the Road to Self-Mastery
beginning October 9, 7:00-8:00pm
(recordings available)

In the 4-week, online Spiritual Pilates workshop, you learn skills to respond to the stress of the life from your Higher Self so that you can:

  • feel calm when you arrive after driving through stressful rush hour traffic;
  • educate the rude co-worker about how you prefer to be treated rather than make the situation worse by dishing it back;
  • elegantly shift to Plan B when the dinner burns as the guests arrive.

You also learn to align with your higher energetic vibrations so you can:

  • connect to your personal power center and feel more grounded
  • access your Source of innate Well-Being within and feel deeper self-love
  • align ego-mind with Divine mind to transform negative thoughts into self-forgiveness.

Hi! I’m Leah Skurdal, author of Seeking Serenity: How to Find Your Inner Calm and Joy. For over 25 years, I have specialized in helping women experience more of what they DO want to create in their lives. Check in with your intuition about whether Spiritual Pilates is your next right step. Contact me at leah.skurdal@gmail.com and let’s chat.

“You set me back on track today. You are a great listener and fast on your feet! Hoping to practice more in the moment like this. I could have easily written off the rest of my day because I seemed to be scraping by, but it’s never too late to have a great day.”  Spiritual Pilates Workshop Participant

Integrating New Vibrations


 Have you received a gift or had an experience that took you a long while to integrate?  The box sits unopened. The gift card goes unspent. Feeding the new baby seems monumental.

It took me a while to integrate the energy of this painting.  I kept turning the painting until it seemed right. It blew me away that the artist, Linda Rasche, matched my colors exactly without knowing what they were or that I had favorite colors. She followed her intuition.

Have you ever been spot on like that? Without knowing how you arrived at being spot on?

Sometimes integrating the energy of children is like that. Their high vibration can feel overwhelming at times. The children coming to the planet now bring a higher vibration than in the past. How do we older, experienced beings integrate the wisdom, and sometimes raucous energy, of children so that we don’t squelch their wisdom but embrace their contributions?

How do you interact with the kids’ vibrations so your response is spot on?

Good question. One we will be working on in my online workshop Spiritual Pilates: On the Road to Self Mastery. Because, of course, creating an environment where children thrive starts by creating an environment where their parents thrive.

Check with your intuitive wisdom and see if this resonates with you And if the Spiritual Pilates workshop is a good fit for you.

In Spiritual Pilates, you learn skills to:

  • Strengthen your inner spiritual core muscles so you can navigate the ups and downs of life And respond from your higher self;
  • Sustain your higher vibration of peace and calm when the overtired and hungry kid starts screaming for a cookie;
  • Discern what questions to ask when the kid comes home crying from school;
  • Take your mommy wisdom or grandma wisdom to the next level and trust your intuition telling you to change schools so the kid gets the education appropriate to her needs.

As you integrate your higher level of intuitive wisdom, you create an environment where you, the children and your whole family can thrive.

The next 4-week session of Spiritual Pilates starts Wednesday, September 5.

Check in with your mommy or grandma wisdom and see if it feels like the next right step for you.

Contact me for the details. 651-472-3995

Be well, Leah

 

Breakthroughs!

Momentum is building. A bunch of people in my life are lining up for breakthroughs and miracles right now. Are you one of them?

In what area of your life have you been putting off success? What difference would a breakthrough in this area make in your life right now?

Now is the time to self correct!

You’re invited to join Spiritual Pilates: On the Road to Self Mastery
launching live Wednesday August 8, 12:00pm.
Recordings available next day.

In my online program, Spiritual Pilates: On the Road to Self Mastery, you start with the building blocks of vibrational frequencies. You learn and practice tools and processes to tune into your own vibration as an electro-magnetic energy being so you can:

  • connect to your inner reservoir of well-being and feel refreshed and nourished from within and not feel depleted at the end of the day.
  • gain mastery over your thoughts and emotions so you don’t react to other people’s dramas and you can feel more in control of your emotions.
  • strengthen your physical vibration so you heal the headache, abdominal distress or other illness more quickly.
  • rather than letting the stress of life turn you upside down, learn to harness stress like the archer pulling back the bow to launch the arrow forward, so you keep forward momentum going in your life.

What we do in Spiritual Pilates is remind you of the truth you already know in your heart and reconnect you with your Soul connected to God the Infinite Within  – in a way that is real and authentic.

What ‘s so powerful about it is that once you get it – the connection to God Within, the Source of Well-being – your well-being flows out of you and spills into your life. Your cup overflows and others can drink from your saucer.

You will manage your life with more grace, ease, and joy than you believed possible a short while ago – because what we do is help you connect to your Source of Power Within.

Click here for a video with more info on Spiritual Pilates.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rTqB6QTD9zY&feature=youtu.be

Then, let’s chat about what you are creating in your life. Text or call me at 651-472-3995.

I look forward to talking with you.

Be well,
Leah

3 Keys for Healthy Relationships

Unless you are a hermit living in a cave and growing your own food, you need to interact with other people. Stressful relationships top the chart of my clients’ reasons to see me for stress management. “Hell is other people!” declared French playwright Jean-Paul Sartre. And, sometimes you might agree, and wonder why the hell this person Is trying to make your life miserable. Usually, though, conflict with another person is not so intense – just low key annoyance. He says something that triggers your anger. You say something that he interprets as criticism.

How do you break the cycle of negativity between people? Because at our core, we are social beings woven together in Divine Love. We thrive on respectful, loving, courageously kind interactions with others.

Here are three keys to building healthy, loving relationships:

1) Self-love. At Unity North Spiritual Center, we sing a song, “I love myself so much, that I can love you so much, that you can love you so much, that you can start loving me.” Be your own best friend and treat yourself with loving kindness. Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t want a friend to say to you. The energetic vibration you send out comes back to you. When you feel more love for yourself, you will get more love back.

2) Listen. Listen deeply to the other person. What are they really trying to say underneath their crunchy exterior? Marshall Rosenberg, founder of the Compassionate Communication Model, asks What is the unmet need? Are they really expressing hurt feelings? Or fear of abandonment? Or sadness from an unresolved past wound? Can you find compassion in your heart to hear what the other person is really saying which he lacks the skills to communicate? Raise the vibration of the conversation through your deep listening with the ears of love.

3) Creativity. Imagine that there might be another solution outside the box of your frustration. Open your awareness to the possibility that there might be a third option, a better solution, or an easier path. Keeping an open heart and mind opens the doorway for creative solutions. A new awareness and understanding might be right around the corner which will create a bridge to better communication.

Certainly, some relationship stress requires intervention or therapy to come to resolution. However, most stressful situations between people can be improved through applying three keys: be kind to yourself, listen with the ears of love, and allow your inner creative wisdom to show you a better solution.

In my spiritual healing practice, I focus on helping change-makers manage stressful relationships so they can expand their impact in the world. I offer Intentional Energy Healing sessions to raise the energetic vibration of the relationship so everyone can thrive. If you would like assistance to heal a relationship drama with a loved one, I can help. Let’s set up a time to chat. Email me at leah.skurdal@gmail.com

Five Simple Strategies to Subdue Stress

 

Chronic stress contributes to headaches, inflammation, depression, heart attack, diabetes and stroke.

 

Five Simple Strategies to Subdue Stress

  • Manage stress before stress manages you
  • Add a vitally important and often overlooked tool to your personal and professional toolkit
  • Learn proven stress management tools from a trained professional with 25 years of experience

Join Leah Skurdal, author of
Seeking Serenity: How to Find Your Inner Calm & Joy

Thursday, May 10, 6:30-7:30pm

At The Wellness Circle
7094 Lake Dr. Lino Lakes, MN 55014

Limited Seating Available.  Stress busting snacks.

Call to confirm your reservation now!  651-472-3995

BIG LOVE

What the world needs now is BIG LOVE! Bigger than fear. Bigger than self-doubt. Bigger than your excuses. Not the fluffy Bunny Peep love of Hallmark cards or the casual, “love you” greeting. What we need now is deep, profound I-will-do-what-it-takes love. I know what that kind of profound love feels like. So do Marlene and Bill.

Marlene and Bill, a retired couple in their 80s, live in the land of ice and snow in Northern Minnesota. When Bill was diagnosed with prostate cancer, doctors prescribed 39 radiation treatments – which required driving an hour to the town of Brainerd, five days a week, from Thanksgiving through the New Year. Aside from the courage it takes to survive 39 radiation treatments, (no small feat) getting to the appointments during a Minnesota winter took a different kind of grit, courage and profound love.

The winter of 2014 Up North, as we Minnesotans say, included record snowfalls and thirty degree below zero temperatures day after day. Marlene took the wheel. “You’re not dying on my watch!” she told Bill. Which means: Die if you must because it is your time to go. But you are NOT dying because I did not do MY 100%.

Marlene drove Bill to and from the hospital, two hours a day, leaving the house by 7am, five days a week through harsh winter driving conditions. Some people commute an hour to work but not usually at Marlene’s age of 82 years old.

Marlene drove 4500 miles that winter. Half of the time, the roads were not plowed. Marlene would position her four-wheel drive SUV behind an 18-wheeler and plow on through the snow drifts covering the road. On some days, it was only Marlene, Bill and the truckers who were committed enough to venture the journey to Brainerd.

One day, as they left home on a snowy day in sub-zero temperatures, Marlene and Bill said to each other, “we have nothing to complain about. We’ve had a good life.”

They drove in silence. Marlene prayed the rosary for an hour straight twice a day – which she credits as the reason they arrived safely every day. After the 39 treatments ended, Bill’s cancer went into remission. Spring finally arrived and Bill went back to gardening and feeding the wildlife.

That’s what it took: grit, Minnesota heartiness born of determination, prayer, and BIG LOVE. That’s what 50+ years of marriage will do for you.

We could use some of that BIG LOVE these days. The BIG LOVE required to teach kids and adults compassionate communication skills so they learn to get along with each other. The BIG LOVE required to find or create an educational system where your kid can thrive. The BIG LOVE required to build a loving home environment where each of the family members feels loved and appreciated for their unique talents.

In my work, Intentional Energy Healing, I play all out for my clients. We set an energetic intention to create or to heal something in their life. One client got her estranged daughter back in her life. Current client intentions include completing a marathon, healing family relationships, and experiencing more daily joy.

What are you committed to in your life? For what are you willing to DO WHAT IT TAKES?

Post comments below. Message me if you would like support to create a life you love.

 

Anger, Resentment, Betrayal – Oh My!

Feeling betrayed lately? Among my clients, I notice similar patterns showing up around the same time. Lately, it has been the pattern of betrayal.

Someone has an affair with their friend’s spouse. Someone’s ex-spouse tries to steal from them. A co-worker gossips and spreads untruth.

Another theme I observe is that the level of emotional pain my clients feel goes beyond the current situation. It seems that the betrayal is a symptom of recurring emotional pain and not only the cause of this emotional pain.  How can we heal the root of betrayal so the pattern does not recur?

In my work, we look at the energetic vibration woven into the tapestry of a story. Within the tapestry, the feeling of betrayal carries a judgment of right and wrong. Someone is a victim and someone is a perpetrator. Someone expressed themself in a hurtful way and someone received hurtful feelings.  In the vibration, there is a giver and a receiver – two ends of the vibratory pattern. I can’t feel betrayed unless I am willing to receive that feeling.

How can you receive more love when you feel betrayal, anger or resentment?

In my meditation yesterday, I asked, “What is the question?” I heard, “How do I love more deeply?” Good question. “OK, how do I love more deeply?” I heard, “Allow. Allow. Allow. Allow. Allow.”  Great.

So, to love more deeply, I need to open my heart more fully. Tricky thing for us empaths who already feel more than our share of the world’s pain and need some boundaries.

Do you open your heart wide and risk feeling the pain of betrayal when someone steps over your boundaries?  Or, do you love more deeply which means, loving yourself more deeply and being willing to take care of your boundaries – and be willing to say, “That hurt my feelings.” Then, loving another person enough to let go of your need to be right and meet them in the field beyond right-doing and wrong-doing, as the Sufi poet Rumi says.

Ouch. Some days, I’m better at that than other days. Sometimes it takes me awhile to get to the place in my heart where I experience compassion for everyone in the story. One day, when I had experienced what, from my perspective, felt like a friend’s betrayal, I suddenly got a spiritual tap on the shoulder telling me to listen. When I turned inward to listen deeply to my heart’s wisdom, I understood a much bigger storyline than the immediate betrayal. My friend had her reasons which, from her perspective, made her happiness more important than my unhappiness. If I had walked her path, I might have come to the same conclusion.

But I’m walking my path. And right now my feelings are hurt by your embracing your happiness at my expense.  Ah. Therein lies, the judgment, the wrong-doing. When I add the tagline, at my expense, I imply that you knew I would feel hurt and chose to make yourself happy anyway. But, doesn’t everyone have that choice? Isn’t that acknowledging another person’s boundary? What happens when people’s boundaries bump against each other? Complicated questions to ponder. The more immediate question to answer is:

So what do you do with your feelings when you feel betrayed?

  • Acknowledge your feelings of anger, sadness and resentment. Then, give yourself some love. Open your heart from the inside to receive love from your Higher Self. It is only your smaller ego self on the outside that feels betrayed. You always have access to the deep inner reservoir of Infinite Love within. Connect to a place behind your physical heart in front of your spine that opens into your Soul and through Soul to God the Infinite where there is only love.
  • Allow love to stream through from your wise Higher Self like a balm to sooth the emotional pain. Surround yourself in this healing balm of Infinite Love that is yours to claim.
  • From this connection to your Higher Wisdom, ask deep questions and ask for guidance in navigating this rocky terrain.

What is behind the other person’s story?

What do I need to learn from this situation?

What did I do well?

What could I have done differently?

What action do I need to take next?

How can I come to peace about this story?

Ultimately, you want to feel peaceful inside, right? You can hang on to anger and sadness for a longer time until you are done processing those feelings if you choose.

When you are ready to heal those emotional wounds and ready to take a step forward (you don’t have to do it all at once) you will experience the relief of forgiveness as a weight being lifted from your heart.

  • Open your heart to feel compassion for yourself to have experienced this hurt.
  • Perhaps you can remember a time when you said or did something hurtful to another and how you would have liked to experience their forgiveness. At least you can forgive yourself. Open your heart to forgive yourself for your past misdeeds. You can say to yourself, “I’m sorry for whatever I did that contributed to my hurt feelings.”

If you believe you did nothing that contributed to the betrayal, look into your ancestral lineage and other lifetimes. Sometimes the roots of an emotional wound run very deep.

After filling yourself up with love from the inside, if you are ready, open your heart to a bit more compassion for another person who chose to act hurtfully out of their own hurt and broken heart.

When you can heal the emotional pain you are carrying, (how long did you want to carry around that bag of rocks anyway?), you open a doorway for others to release their emotional pain as well. When you shift up, you create a happier environment where you and others can thrive.

When you choose to respond with compassion and kindness, you rewrite the story.

Break the cycle.

Weave a new tapestry where your needs get met.

What are your thoughts about betrayal?  It is a many-faceted topic.  Add your comments below.

If you would like assistance getting through a betrayal and healing an emotional wound, I can help.  Message me and let’s set up a time to chat.