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The Art of Jazz Living

Jazz – improvisation, spontaneity, vitality, and interactive collaboration

When a friend poured out her heart about the stuff of life, I sent this response.

I see, hear, feel you. I’m walking in the direction I feel guided. Putting one foot in front of the other. Then self correct. 
 I used to think there was one path and you’re either on the path or off the path. That’s the way of classical music and French cooking with Julia Child. Which is awesomeness at it’s best. 
Real life is more about jazz cooking. You have some guiding principles. You look at recipes for inspiration. You try things together in new combinations. Sometimes it works, sometimes you throw it out. And sometimes magic happens when the ingredients and the timing and cooking process all comes together in the moment. You and I have had those experiences – which is why we believe in them. And for whatever reasons, sometimes isn’t always. 
So we try again. We digest what we can and throw out the rest. And we learn. We learn what goes together. We learn what doesn’t go together. We learn about the cooking process called life. That’s the art of jazz living.

Any feedback? Thoughts? Input?

Fathers Who Screwed Up

Some dads screw up badly

Father’s Day opens a can of worms for some people. Feelings of abandonment and unresolved issues resurface. This post is for people who want to find peace in their screwed up father relationships.

Some fortunate people had wonderful relationships with loving fathers. I was blessed with a father who loved, supported and encouraged his kids. I loved him dearly and still miss him daily. My father also screwed up – royally. He spent half of his adult life as an emotionally unavailable alcoholic – and then celebrated 29 years of sobriety when he died. He went bankrupt and lost the family home – and then rebuilt a comfortable retirement income which benefited his family. He cheated on his marriage more than once – and, due to my mother’s graciousness, my father rebuilt a loving relationship with her and his children.

Fathers screw up sometimes. We all screw up sometimes. Looking at my father’s life and screw ups with compassion gave me a new perspective into my own life and my own mistakes. My new awareness brought me peace with my father and with myself.

Fathers are people with unmet needs too – even those men whom we do not admire. Maybe they had abusive fathers themselves with no good role models in sight. Maybe they had unrealistic expectations of themselves and their abilities and therefore felt inadequate. Maybe our culture imposed unrealistic expectations on them.

One of the saddest things I have heard was from Brené Brown’s interview with a man who said his wife and children would rather see him die on his white horse than to see him fall down. Ouch.

Cheers to the men who fall down and get up again. And again. And again.

Cheers to the men who confront their inner demons and live to tell the tale. Because some men don’t make it through the rain. (Tribute to Barry Manilow) “I made it through the rain and found myself respected by the others who got rained on too, and made it through.”

I’m not letting anyone off the hook for screwing up, lying, cheating, stealing, or abusing and belittling someone to make themselves feel powerful. Abusing power is never ok.  But each of us can choose whether to hold on to judgment of themselves and others. I encourage you to make amends now and make better choices next time.

It’s not too late to make amends, to write the letter, to make the phone call, to visit the person who longs to hear your voice saying they are loved.  I screwed up and I still love you. Or you screwed up and I’m really pissed off, but I want to understand your perspective. Let’s talk.

If, for whatever reason, you’re not able to confront that father-child relationship in person, reach out energetically and spiritually. Write the letter and burn it. Say a prayer in your heart. Connect Soul to Soul and speak your piece to the wind.  Then, let go and listen with your heart for the next step.

I specialize in helping people heal relationships at a spiritual level. Let me know if I can help. The higher perspective from a spiritual level brings clarity and inner peace –  often this builds the bridge to outer peace.  

Leah Skurdal is a Stress Resilience Coach and Energy Healer who helps people uplevel their stress response so they can uplevel their relationships with the people who matter. Reach out to her at leah.skurdal@gmail.com

Ripples of Peace

Build resilience to stress.
Learn tools to strengthen relationships.
Join our workshop Tuesday 5/28, 7-8:30pm.
11499 Martin St. Coon Rapids, MN

Update Resilience

I choose to thrive!

Today I am consciously choosing to use my Five Simple Strategies to Subdue Stress! With the restoration company fixing our ice dam related water issues, the leaking sink drain requiring a call to the restoration company and the leaking main water line unrelated to the previous water issues requiring calls to find a plumber, the wrong door key requiring a second trip and Whew! I am needing to breathe, smile, and find something to be grateful for.

Some days it is easier than others to focus on gratitude. So today I am grateful that I can feel gratitude! I am grateful for a great restoration company with competent workers. I am grateful for clean water that flows easily through my tap without me having to carry it into the house. I am grateful for a refrigerator full of delicious fruits and vegetables. I am grateful that the song in my head is Josh Groban singing “so much to be thankful for.”

If you need a boost of resilience, come to my class tonight

Five Simple Strategies to Subdue Stress
2 S. Pine Dr, Circle Pines MN
7-8pm
$15

Boost Your Good Vibes

Tap into your natural core of well-being any time for stress relief, to recharge your batteries and to gain wisdom about your next steps. Respond to drama with inner strength and compassion. Integrate spiritual practice into your daily actions.

Responding to Stress from Your Inner Strength
May 14, May 21, May 28 – 7:00-8:00pm
Unity North Spiritual Center, 11499 Martin St., Coon Rapids, MN

May 14 – Boosting Your Good Vibes
Gain awareness of how negative and positive energetic vibrations impact you. Cleanse your field of depleting energetic vibrations to enhance your wellbeing.

May 21 – Love Transforms Fear
Connect to Divine Love to pre-pave a potentially stressful situation for improved results. Strengthen interpersonal relationships and resolve conflict with Divine Love.

May 28 – Creating Ripples of Peace
Create a sacred group to engage in conscious co-creation for the next seven generations. Connect to intuitive wisdom to enhance creative problem solving potential.

Pre-register for all three sessions – $100
Individual workshop – $37
50% proceeds to Unity North Spiritual Center
Call Leah to register – 651-472-3995

Celebrate Golden Rule Day

The Golden Rule: A Universal Spiritual Principle
Treat others the way you would like to be treated.

April 5 is International Golden Rule Day honoring the Universal Spiritual Principle written in the world’s religious scriptures using different words with the same meaning:
Treat other people the way you would like to be treated.

Let’s go the whole nine yards.

You prefer to be treated the way you prefer to be treated and not the way other people treat themselves or the way someone else wants to be treated. I can massage the calves of someone’s legs because they really like that, but please do not massage the calves of my legs because I do not like it. In fact, I might kick you if I’m not paying attention. I don’t always want the same treatment that you find pleasurable, even if you think you’re being kind. But I love to have my feet massaged which some people do not enjoy. So, ask. Check out your perception of what you consider kindness.

A guy I know was put off when a woman straightened his collar without asking. He doesn’t like being touched by people outside of his family. The touch rule goes both ways. The woman probably thought she was being kind in noticing that his collar was rumpled. She probably straightens her husband’s collar so she thought she was doing him a service. But, would she have wanted a male co-worker to straighten her collar? Even if he thought he was being kind? Hmmm. You would probably prefer to be asked, “Hey, I see your collar is rumpled. Would you like help straightening it for the photo?”

Today, on Golden Rule Day, see how much kindness you can share with the world. Focus your intention on giving and receiving kindness with an open heart. And, when in doubt, ask.

Click here to learn more about the 24 hour celebration of International Golden Rule Day.https://www.goldenruleday.org/

Unwrap Your Spiritual Gifts

Which of your gifts and talents are you ready to unwrap and explore:
Intuitive knowing? Inner healing? Angelic connection?

Are you curious about:

  • How to hear the still, small voice of God Within more often so you can feel more passionate, purposeful and confident about your choices?
  • How to access your innate well-being and inner healer so you can allow God’s healing to flow to you and through you to heal others?
  • How to connect to your guardian angel so you feel extra comfort and protection when you feel stressed or afraid?

Unwrap Your Spiritual Gifts
Tuesday, March 12, 2019 7:00-9:00pm

Mastery in the Art of Living
at The Wellness Circle
7094 Lake Drive, Lino Lakes, MN 55014
$97

Join this fun and informative workshop to access new ways of being and learn five tools to Unwrap Your Spiritual Gifts. You will:

  • increase awareness of your body’s energetic vibrations to better manage your emotions and mental chatter;
  • move your body and tone sacred sounds in harmony with your spirit to feel more peaceful;
  • connect to your guardian angel in the sanctuary of your heart through guided meditation to feel protected;
  • express your creative wisdom in written guided poetry to better know your wise higher self;
  • discover what your inner wisdom is trying to tell you in your dreams.

You are a wise spiritual being living a physical experience. When you connect through your wise Soul self to God the Infinite, you access radiant gifts like self-love, compassion, and discernment. Your relationships grow stronger and more rewarding when you use your natural inner spiritual gifts.

Click on the link to register for the workshop. You can call or text me with questions. 651-472-3995

I’m Leah Skurdal, Spiritual Wellness Coach at Mastery in the Art of Living. I offer an inspirational look at living as a spiritual being having a physical experience. I combine research with stories of spiritual transformation to make challenging skills easy to integrate into daily living. In my book, Seeking Serenity: How to Find Your Inner Calm and Joy, I help people align body, emotions, mind and spirit to reduce stress, create more joyful relationships, and expand their intuitive wisdom.

Happy Thanksgiving, Everyone!

 

Sometimes, too much family togetherness at the holidays can feel stressful.

Here are 3 tips to bring your best self to the Thanksgiving table.

First, set your intention to stay happy no matter what. Connect to your inner wellbeing that is not dependent on what other people say or do.

Second, shift into neutral and be curious. How did Uncle Bob come to that conclusion? Why is Mom stressing about the gravy? How can you respond to stressors with compassion and not contribute to the drama?

Third, you will probably digest your food better if you allow more love, light and joy to flow through you. How can you raise the vibration for everyone at the table through your joy?

Really, at the end of the day, all we can control is our own response.
Happy Thanksgiving!

Leah

To learn more about skills to manage your energy and vibration, email me and let’s set up a time to chat. leah.skurdal@gmail.com

Introducing Oak Savanna Training Academy

What untapped passion calls your heart to a Higher Purpose?

I have been resisting my calling for years – decades – because it sounds too weird, too scary and like a lot of work. But this calling keeps knocking at my heart. Listen!

The calling in my heart tells me to grow an oak savanna. Not a physical grove of trees (although I love oak trees) but a spiritual oak savanna.

In every acorn lives the promise of an oak savanna. Some acorns will get eaten by squirrels. Some acorns will sprout, grow into seedlings and be eaten by deer. Some seedlings will grow into oak trees that get cut down to make oak cabinets and door frames.

But some oak trees will produce more acorns, some of which will turn into food and fuel, some of which will grow into oak trees that produce more acorns – until an entire oak savanna covers the terrain providing food, shelter, and shade for plants, bugs, animals and humans.

All that promise in each acorn!

Are you an acorn ready to grow an oak savanna?

I’m looking for a few nuts like me.

Starting in January 2019, I am launching an “oak savanna training academy” – a sisterhood of change-makers and spiritual pioneers.

You might be one of them if life seems to get in the way of living your higher purpose.

You feel a calling to make a difference in the world  – and you would do it if you didn’t have so many obligations, so many demands on  your time, so many people asking you to do more.

Really! You will get to that calling when you have less stress and can better manage the things in front of you. When things slow down. When there are fewer distractions. When you feel less stressed out all the time.

Sorry to tell you. That is called LIFE. If not now, then when? The world is at the 11th hour right now and we need your gifts and talents!

I’m creating the Oak Savanna Training Academy for you to respond to the stress of life with your Higher Self!  So you can bring your best self to the table. And I’m creating a format that can fit into your busy day so you feel less stressed while you are on track having a blast living your life on purpose.

During the 12-week online program, you will receive tools to:

  • Connect to your Higher Self during times of stress so you feel better faster
  • Practice self-forgiveness so you can return to self love more quickly when you make a mistake
  • Listen to another person’s Higher Self so you understand their motivation, release your judgment and improve your relationships
  • Keep your heart open so you can respond to conflict with compassion and not add to the drama around you
  • Hear the stillness under your mind chatter so you feel more inner peace
  • Align with the Divine expressing through you and as you so you feel greater joy and passion in your life

Message me if you would like to learn more about the Oak Savanna Training Academy. I can’t wait to get started!
Leah

Clarify Your Intentions for 2019

What kind of life do you want to be creating for yourself, your loved ones and the world around you?

We live in a challenging world in challenging times.  You may notice people around you falling into despair.  Some days it might feel like enough of a challenge to keep your own head above water without trying to hold others up from sinking beneath the surface too. Maybe your office environment gets snarky when co-workers feel stressed. Maybe your family members act out when they feel angry, sad or unloved.

It takes focus and determination to stay on track creating a world where you want to live – a world where you feel loved and appreciated.  A world where the people around you are stable and joyful too.

So, how do you keep yourself stable enough to be a light in the dark for others – without extinguishing your own light in the process?

Practice the art of Spiritual Pilates to strengthen your inner spiritual core muscles so you can intentionally create the life you love and desire – a life where you show up as your best self and others contribute to your well-being rather than drag you down.  Consistently practicing the skills of Spiritual Pilates leads to new levels of self-mastery.

Self-mastery does not mean that you never make mistakes or need to re-calibrate your vibrations to get back on track toward achieving your goals and dreams. Self-mastery is about how quickly you get back to center once you have gotten off track.

You are invited to join the Spiritual Pilates online community to practice skills leading to self-mastery.

In Spiritual Pilates, you learn skills to manage your subtle energy vibrations so that you can:

  • Get yourself out of a slump more quickly and feel better faster;
  • Respond to the ups and downs of life without feeling flustered when things don’t go as planned;
  • Improve the quality of your relationships and have more rewarding interactions with people;
  • Feel energized enough to make dinner at the end of the day;
  • Calm your mind chatter and stop making things worse for yourself;
  • Experience more God in your daily life and feel blessed moment to moment;
  • Shine your inner light more brightly so people around you can find their own path more easily.

The next session of Spiritual Pilates: On the Road to Self-Mastery begins November 13, 2018.

  • The live online workshop meets four Tuesdays, 7–8:00pm CT, 8-9:00ET, 6-7:00MT, 5-6:00PT November 13, 20, 27, December 4
  • Recordings available
  • Live and recorded Q&A Weekly
  • Meditations, homework
  • Two live 10-minute mid-day energy resets weekly
  • Closed Facebook group

In Spiritual Pilates we focus on physical, emotional, mental and spiritual energy vibrations and how to:

Week 1 – raise and sustain your physical energy vibration so you feel energized and not depleted;

Week 2 – work with emotional vibrations that stop you from moving forward so you can stay on track toward achieving your goals and desires;

Week 3 – assess whether your thoughts are in integrity with your intentions or keeping you stuck in old patterns of behavior;

Week 4 – align body, emotions, mind and spirit for optimal well-being so you are living your life on purpose and you feel fulfilled.

Check with your inner guidance to see if Spiritual Pilates resonates with you.  Then, call or text me and let’s set up a time to chat about whether Spiritual Pilates is the next right step for you.  Leah 651-472-3995.