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Stress Resilience Coaching

When did you experience an upset that you wish you had handled differently? Maybe your stressful response created ramifications that affected your relationships with work-mates, friends or loved ones.

Up-level your stress response and improve your relationships with the people who matter most – family, friends, co-workers and clients. Your natural state of well-being is already within you ready to access. When your response to stress comes from your natural state of inner well-being, you feel more grounded, less frazzled and less reactionary.

When you are plugged in to your inner well-being, the right words show up to clearly communicate your intention. When you are plugged in, you can access your wisdom for creative problem solving. When you get plugged in to your natural energy reservoir, you can align physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually for a greater sense of well-being.

Update your skills to live in well-being more often and create ripples of well-being that uplift the people around you too.

The holiday season can be a stressful time for relationships. Take advantage of my Holiday Stress Resilience Special. Regularly $200 per 2-hour session – Nov/Dec only $120. Call or text now to schedule your introductory session. 651-472-3995

Holiday Stress Resilience Tip: Take time to be still and do nothing – called “stilling”.

Masculine Fathers, Effeminate Sons

“Effeminate AF, but I’m straight.”

“I don’t know my kids anymore,” lamented a father estranged from his teenage son and daughter. He faulted the divorce and his soon-to-be ex-wife for the chasm between him and his children. The father complained that he didn’t know his kids well enough to know what gifts to get them for their birthdays.

Granted, the tricky business of buying gifts for teenagers often gets met with disdain, so I err on the side of cash – a gift which is always appreciated. Unless of course you have the open communication to drill down and find out what they really want within your budget (not an iPhone) and values (not vaping supplies) – or you are good at guessing. One Christmas, my husband intuited well-received gifts for our teenage daughters of canvases, acrylic paints and quality brushes, which led to hours of friendly painting parties. Score! Success for daughters who love art! But the teenage boy remains a mystery to me, having none of my own and no brothers. Although, I hear from other parents that their teenage sons remain mysterious to them, too.

Nonetheless, all the gift giving conflicts aside, I felt taken aback by the estranged father’s next comment.  He continued to lament that his son was effeminate.  The father said this in a way that I understood his son being effeminate was a painful burden to him, perhaps a failure on his own part.

Effeminate means to demonstrate traits more often
associated with feminine mannerisms and behaviors.

In a flash of insight, I intuitively saw a behavior pattern beyond the discussion of teen birthday gifts. The father was negatively judging qualities and behaviors traditionally associated with the feminine as less desirable than those qualities and behaviors generally associated with the masculine.  His judging and devaluing the feminine affected his relationship with his wife and kids – which led to divorce and estrangement.

Hold on! Let’s unpack some assumptions around effeminate behaviors.

 A woman friend and I mused about why we enjoy hanging out with gay men. It’s because gay men have similar brains to us. Researchers at the Karolinska Institute in Sweden conducted brain scans and found that gay men, left-handed men and straight women share common brain architecture that improves communication. The corpus callosum, the bridge between right and left brain hemispheres, contains more processing connections to integrate logic and emotion more efficiently.  Straight men, right-handed men and lesbians also share similar brain architecture with larger right brain hemispheres which tend toward better spatial awareness.

Not all effeminate men are gay and not all gay men share effeminate traits. Everyone has masculine and feminine energies as two halves of a dualistic whole. The yang, expressive, masculine, out breath balances the yin, listening, feminine, in breath. Masculine and feminine qualities run on a continuum from very masculine/extreme macho to very feminine/extreme dainty with most people expressing their unique balance of masculine and feminine traits somewhere in the middle. Girls who cross the line and express a more rough and tumble nature might be called tomboys. Boys who cross the line and express a more gentle nature might be called effeminate (or more derogatory terms).

What do men experience when they don’t fit into society’s standards of masculinity?

The Good Men Project addressed that question in an article, Men Ask: ”Is it Weird That I’m Effeminate AF but I’m Straight?”  Some responses affirmed what my friend and I experienced. “I’m effeminate and get along better with women.”  (stronger corpus callosum and better communicator).  Some answers made me feel sad. “I feel kind of undesirable because I’m effeminate.” “I hate being an effeminate straight guy. No girl would want someone like me.”  

Can men be effeminate and still be good men?

The Good Men Project website states they have “pioneered the largest worldwide conversation about what it means to be a good man in the 21st Century.”  Goodmenproject.com

Let’s continue their conversation. It’s not just my estranged father friend who negatively judges feminine qualities in males. He shares an attitude prevalent in our culture that devalues traits traditionally considered feminine: empathy, sensitivity, caring, compassion, tolerance, and nurturance –traits that make good communicators.

The father was undervaluing a trait that would serve him if he embraced it – Emotional Intelligence- EQ – the ability to handle interpersonal relationships. Danial Goleman, in his book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter, shares how EQ skills, more than IQ, determine success in relationships and at work.

There’s good news for my estranged father friend.  Current research on the neuroplasticity of the brain and on Emotional Intelligence shows that our brains respond to outer stimulus by building new neuropathways. Emotional Intelligence can be learned through practicing social awareness skills like recognizing visual cues, listening with compassion and empathy, and fine-tuning your radar for the emotional climate around you.

If my friend practices building new brain neuro-pathways through improving his communication skills, (such as listening with empathy and compassion to his teenagers), he might strengthen his corpus callosum and develop some traits considered more feminine – and ultimately act more like his son. Maybe he can even rebuild a foundation for re-engagement with his kids.

Trying to communicate with your teenagers or your spouse can augment stress. Not communicating with the people who matter most to you will cause you more stress. Upleveling your Emotional Intelligence skills and your response to stressful situations will add to your satisfaction in life – a goal worth the effort.

 Leah Skurdal has taught people to respond to stress from their natural state of Inner Wellbeing for over 25 years. In her speeches and workshops, Leah inspires audiences to envision the best version of themselves. Leah offers individual Energy Healing and Stress Resilience Coaching in person, by phone, Skype, Zoom and Facebook Live. She is author of the book, Seeking Serenity: How to Find Your Inner Calm and Joy and can be reached at leah.skurdal@gmail.com. Check out her workshop Raise the Bar on Stressful Relationships 8/13/19 in Coon Rapids Minnesota.

Boost Your Good Vibes

Tap into your natural core of well-being any time for stress relief, to recharge your batteries and to gain wisdom about your next steps. Respond to drama with inner strength and compassion. Integrate spiritual practice into your daily actions.

Responding to Stress from Your Inner Strength
May 14, May 21, May 28 – 7:00-8:00pm
Unity North Spiritual Center, 11499 Martin St., Coon Rapids, MN

May 14 – Boosting Your Good Vibes
Gain awareness of how negative and positive energetic vibrations impact you. Cleanse your field of depleting energetic vibrations to enhance your wellbeing.

May 21 – Love Transforms Fear
Connect to Divine Love to pre-pave a potentially stressful situation for improved results. Strengthen interpersonal relationships and resolve conflict with Divine Love.

May 28 – Creating Ripples of Peace
Create a sacred group to engage in conscious co-creation for the next seven generations. Connect to intuitive wisdom to enhance creative problem solving potential.

Pre-register for all three sessions – $100
Individual workshop – $37
50% proceeds to Unity North Spiritual Center
Call Leah to register – 651-472-3995

Celebrate Golden Rule Day

The Golden Rule: A Universal Spiritual Principle
Treat others the way you would like to be treated.

April 5 is International Golden Rule Day honoring the Universal Spiritual Principle written in the world’s religious scriptures using different words with the same meaning:
Treat other people the way you would like to be treated.

Let’s go the whole nine yards.

You prefer to be treated the way you prefer to be treated and not the way other people treat themselves or the way someone else wants to be treated. I can massage the calves of someone’s legs because they really like that, but please do not massage the calves of my legs because I do not like it. In fact, I might kick you if I’m not paying attention. I don’t always want the same treatment that you find pleasurable, even if you think you’re being kind. But I love to have my feet massaged which some people do not enjoy. So, ask. Check out your perception of what you consider kindness.

A guy I know was put off when a woman straightened his collar without asking. He doesn’t like being touched by people outside of his family. The touch rule goes both ways. The woman probably thought she was being kind in noticing that his collar was rumpled. She probably straightens her husband’s collar so she thought she was doing him a service. But, would she have wanted a male co-worker to straighten her collar? Even if he thought he was being kind? Hmmm. You would probably prefer to be asked, “Hey, I see your collar is rumpled. Would you like help straightening it for the photo?”

Today, on Golden Rule Day, see how much kindness you can share with the world. Focus your intention on giving and receiving kindness with an open heart. And, when in doubt, ask.

Click here to learn more about the 24 hour celebration of International Golden Rule Day.https://www.goldenruleday.org/

Visioning Our Future


What’s your vision for the future?

“When your vision becomes more powerful than your memory,
your future becomes more real than your past.” ~Roger Hamilton

Keeping you on track to live the life of
passion and purpose you envision and prefer.
Leah Skurdal, Wellness Coach
Call now to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.
651-472-3995

Harness Stress for Resilience

The archer pulls the bow’s drawstring which creates tension or stress. You may have learned, as I did, that too much stress in your life contributes to a host of ailments and premature death. However, just as the archer harnesses stress to launch the arrow toward the target, you can learn to harness the energy of stress to propel you toward well-being.

In her TED talk, How to Make Stress Your Friend, health psychologist Kelly McGonigal, shared research that surprised me at first, although it makes intuitive sense. Researchers found people who learned to view their stress symptoms (like sweating and pounding heart) as helpful for their performance became less stressed out and less anxious. Not only that, but their blood vessels didn’t constrict in an unhealthful way and instead allowed blood to flow freely as if they were happy and brave.

I get it! How you respond to stress is what matters to your health and wellbeing and creates resilience!

In this lively and insightful workshop, I teach ways to respond to stress from your innate, inner wellbeing so you build resilience and harness the energy of stress to launch you forward in life.

You are invited to learn and practice
Five Simple Strategies to Subdue Stress
Call to schedule a session for your group.

  • Learn tools that harness the power of stress to launch you toward your target, like the archer pulling back the bow’s drawstring
  • Build your stress resilience muscles so you can turn changes and challenges into opportunities
  • Add a vitally important and often overlooked tool to your personal and professional toolkit to gain confidence in stressful situations
  • Learn proven stress management tools from a trained professional with 25 years of experience

Call Leah with Questions or to schedule this fun and informative workshop for your group. 651-472-3995

Unwrap Your Spiritual Gifts

Which of your gifts and talents are you ready to unwrap and explore:
Intuitive knowing? Inner healing? Angelic connection?

Are you curious about:

  • How to hear the still, small voice of God Within more often so you can feel more passionate, purposeful and confident about your choices?
  • How to access your innate well-being and inner healer so you can allow God’s healing to flow to you and through you to heal others?
  • How to connect to your guardian angel so you feel extra comfort and protection when you feel stressed or afraid?

Unwrap Your Spiritual Gifts
Tuesday, March 12, 2019 7:00-9:00pm

Mastery in the Art of Living
at The Wellness Circle
7094 Lake Drive, Lino Lakes, MN 55014
$97


Join this fun and informative workshop to access new ways of being and learn five tools to Unwrap Your Spiritual Gifts. You will:

  • increase awareness of your body’s energetic vibrations to better manage your emotions and mental chatter;
  • move your body and tone sacred sounds in harmony with your spirit to feel more peaceful;
  • connect to your guardian angel in the sanctuary of your heart through guided meditation to feel protected;
  • express your creative wisdom in written guided poetry to better know your wise higher self;
  • discover what your inner wisdom is trying to tell you in your dreams.

You are a wise spiritual being living a physical experience. When you connect through your wise Soul self to God the Infinite, you access radiant gifts like self-love, compassion, and discernment. Your relationships grow stronger and more rewarding when you use your natural inner spiritual gifts.

Click on the link to register for the workshop. You can call or text me with questions. 651-472-3995

I’m Leah Skurdal, Spiritual Wellness Coach at Mastery in the Art of Living. I offer an inspirational look at living as a spiritual being having a physical experience. I combine research with stories of spiritual transformation to make challenging skills easy to integrate into daily living. In my book, Seeking Serenity: How to Find Your Inner Calm and Joy, I help people align body, emotions, mind and spirit to reduce stress, create more joyful relationships, and expand their intuitive wisdom.

Happy Thanksgiving, Everyone!

 

Sometimes, too much family togetherness at the holidays can feel stressful.

Here are 3 tips to bring your best self to the Thanksgiving table.

First, set your intention to stay happy no matter what. Connect to your inner wellbeing that is not dependent on what other people say or do.

Second, shift into neutral and be curious. How did Uncle Bob come to that conclusion? Why is Mom stressing about the gravy? How can you respond to stressors with compassion and not contribute to the drama?

Third, you will probably digest your food better if you allow more love, light and joy to flow through you. How can you raise the vibration for everyone at the table through your joy?

Really, at the end of the day, all we can control is our own response.
Happy Thanksgiving!

Leah

To learn more about skills to manage your energy and vibration, email me and let’s set up a time to chat. leah.skurdal@gmail.com

Introducing Oak Savanna Training Academy

What untapped passion calls your heart to a Higher Purpose?

I have been resisting my calling for years – decades – because it sounds too weird, too scary and like a lot of work. But this calling keeps knocking at my heart. Listen!

The calling in my heart tells me to grow an oak savanna. Not a physical grove of trees (although I love oak trees) but a spiritual oak savanna.

In every acorn lives the promise of an oak savanna. Some acorns will get eaten by squirrels. Some acorns will sprout, grow into seedlings and be eaten by deer. Some seedlings will grow into oak trees that get cut down to make oak cabinets and door frames.

But some oak trees will produce more acorns, some of which will turn into food and fuel, some of which will grow into oak trees that produce more acorns – until an entire oak savanna covers the terrain providing food, shelter, and shade for plants, bugs, animals and humans.

All that promise in each acorn!

Are you an acorn ready to grow an oak savanna?

I’m looking for a few nuts like me.

Starting in January 2019, I am launching an “oak savanna training academy” – a sisterhood of change-makers and spiritual pioneers.

You might be one of them if life seems to get in the way of living your higher purpose.

You feel a calling to make a difference in the world  – and you would do it if you didn’t have so many obligations, so many demands on  your time, so many people asking you to do more.

Really! You will get to that calling when you have less stress and can better manage the things in front of you. When things slow down. When there are fewer distractions. When you feel less stressed out all the time.

Sorry to tell you. That is called LIFE. If not now, then when? The world is at the 11th hour right now and we need your gifts and talents!

I’m creating the Oak Savanna Training Academy for you to respond to the stress of life with your Higher Self!  So you can bring your best self to the table. And I’m creating a format that can fit into your busy day so you feel less stressed while you are on track having a blast living your life on purpose.

During the 12-week online program, you will receive tools to:

  • Connect to your Higher Self during times of stress so you feel better faster
  • Practice self-forgiveness so you can return to self love more quickly when you make a mistake
  • Listen to another person’s Higher Self so you understand their motivation, release your judgment and improve your relationships
  • Keep your heart open so you can respond to conflict with compassion and not add to the drama around you
  • Hear the stillness under your mind chatter so you feel more inner peace
  • Align with the Divine expressing through you and as you so you feel greater joy and passion in your life

Message me if you would like to learn more about the Oak Savanna Training Academy. I can’t wait to get started!
Leah

Clarify Your Intentions for 2019

What kind of life do you want to be creating for yourself, your loved ones and the world around you?

We live in a challenging world in challenging times.  You may notice people around you falling into despair.  Some days it might feel like enough of a challenge to keep your own head above water without trying to hold others up from sinking beneath the surface too. Maybe your office environment gets snarky when co-workers feel stressed. Maybe your family members act out when they feel angry, sad or unloved.

It takes focus and determination to stay on track creating a world where you want to live – a world where you feel loved and appreciated.  A world where the people around you are stable and joyful too.

So, how do you keep yourself stable enough to be a light in the dark for others – without extinguishing your own light in the process?

Practice the art of Spiritual Pilates to strengthen your inner spiritual core muscles so you can intentionally create the life you love and desire – a life where you show up as your best self and others contribute to your well-being rather than drag you down.  Consistently practicing the skills of Spiritual Pilates leads to new levels of self-mastery.

Self-mastery does not mean that you never make mistakes or need to re-calibrate your vibrations to get back on track toward achieving your goals and dreams. Self-mastery is about how quickly you get back to center once you have gotten off track.

You are invited to join the Spiritual Pilates online community to practice skills leading to self-mastery.

In Spiritual Pilates, you learn skills to manage your subtle energy vibrations so that you can:

  • Get yourself out of a slump more quickly and feel better faster;
  • Respond to the ups and downs of life without feeling flustered when things don’t go as planned;
  • Improve the quality of your relationships and have more rewarding interactions with people;
  • Feel energized enough to make dinner at the end of the day;
  • Calm your mind chatter and stop making things worse for yourself;
  • Experience more God in your daily life and feel blessed moment to moment;
  • Shine your inner light more brightly so people around you can find their own path more easily.

The next session of Spiritual Pilates: On the Road to Self-Mastery begins November 13, 2018.

  • The live online workshop meets four Tuesdays, 7–8:00pm CT, 8-9:00ET, 6-7:00MT, 5-6:00PT November 13, 20, 27, December 4
  • Recordings available
  • Live and recorded Q&A Weekly
  • Meditations, homework
  • Two live 10-minute mid-day energy resets weekly
  • Closed Facebook group

In Spiritual Pilates we focus on physical, emotional, mental and spiritual energy vibrations and how to:

Week 1 – raise and sustain your physical energy vibration so you feel energized and not depleted;

Week 2 – work with emotional vibrations that stop you from moving forward so you can stay on track toward achieving your goals and desires;

Week 3 – assess whether your thoughts are in integrity with your intentions or keeping you stuck in old patterns of behavior;

Week 4 – align body, emotions, mind and spirit for optimal well-being so you are living your life on purpose and you feel fulfilled.

Check with your inner guidance to see if Spiritual Pilates resonates with you.  Then, call or text me and let’s set up a time to chat about whether Spiritual Pilates is the next right step for you.  Leah 651-472-3995.